Maybe you’ve been talking about it or maybe it was a complete surprise. The moment you’ve been waiting for is here – you’re engaged! He popped the question, you said “YES!”, and now you have a stunning new rock on your left hand. Now it’s time to tell your family, post a photo, and start researching wedding planners, right?!
With your thoughts buzzing about how you’re going to tell everyone and trying to prioritize all the things you need to do now, it’s easy to jump ahead. Don’t worry, there will be plenty of time for planning, but there’s a few things you need to do first. Here’s a list of the 10 things to do right after you get engaged.
1. Celebrate…just the two of you!
Before you immediately announce your engaged, take a moment to savor this time with your new fiancé! This is a once-in-a-lifetime experience isn’t something you can reproduce. Everything else can wait. The excitement of wedding planning will start soon enough, so take time to celebrate just the two of you. Instead of picking up the phone, pop a bottle of champagne, head to your favorite restaurant, do whatever you want to do to reveal in the fact that you’re now engaged! I promise when you look back on your engagement, you’ll be glad you took time to yourselves.
2. Announce Your Engagement
Your parents should be the first people you tell. Ideally, you’d want to do it in person, but if that’s not possible video chat them or at least make a phone call – no text messages! There’s a good chance they have an idea your engagement is on the horizon and have been patiently waiting by the phone for your call.
Once you’ve told you’re parents, than you can let other friends and family members in on your big secret. for a totally unexpected announcement, throw a surprise party so you can tell all your friends at once. use a game night, summer barbecue, or holiday party to disguise your engagement party. Remember, anyone invited to this engagement party, should also be invited to the wedding.
3. Get Your Engagement Ring Sized
Even if you and your fiancé have gone ring shopping ahead of time, your ring may need to be resized. If that’s the case, you want to take it to a jeweler to be resized as soon as possible. The last thing you want after you get engaged is to have your new sparkler falling off your finger and getting lost.
4. Insure Your Ring
Talking about insurance after you’re engaged isn’t the most exciting thing, but it’s essential to make sure your ring is protected. Insurance can’t protect the sentimental value of your ring, but it can cover any stones that need to be repaired or replaced.
You’ll need to get the ring appraised by a certified independent gemologist, which is a service most jewelers offer when you purchase a ring. Next, talk to your insurance broker to understand what coverage you have if the ring is lost, stolen, or damaged, Make sure you understand any stipulations and what the claims process entails. Oftentimes you can add your ring to your existing homeowner’s or renter’s policy. If you can’t, set up a separate policy.
5. Take a Moment to Relax
It’s easy to get caught up in thinking about everything you have to do to plan a wedding, but don’t forget that being engaged is season of life too! It’s a special and important time in your relationship. Even after you’ve shared the news of your engagement with everyone, don’t feel pressured to jump into wedding planning right away.
6. Create a Budget
One common mistake I see couples making at the beginning of the planning process is not taking time to create a wedding budget. Before making any decisions, you need to know the total amount you have to spend. Set aside time to talk to your families about whether they’ll be contributing. Once you have an idea of your total budget, put together a list of wedding day priorities. (You should both be in agreement with what’s on the list!) Use this list to help guide you as your putting together your budget and figuring out the logistics.
7. Write a Preliminary Guest List
Once your budget is in place, it’s time to think about your guest list. How many people you want to invite will determine what kinds of venues are best for your wedding. Make sure you and your fiance are on the same page about the size of your wedding before approaching your parents for their guest list. Whether you decide go big or keep it small, this helps guide your parents about who should be included (and who shouldn’t) on their list.
Brides Tip: When in doubt about a potential wedding guest, ask yourself if you’d invite them to your home for dinner. If you wouldn’t, don’t invite him or her to your wedding.
8. Discuss a Date
The two most common questions you get asked after you get engaged is:
- Let me see your ring
- When are you getting married?
It’s not uncommon for some wedding vendors to be booked a year or more in advance. If you’re planning on having your wedding at a popular time of year (like June, October or over a holiday), you want to begin narrowing down a date a soon as possible.
9. Think About the Grand Scheme
Whether you’re the girl who’s dreamed about her wedding day since she was a little girl or not, now that you’re engaged, you probably have some idea about the type of wedding you want. In addition to the style, think about the location, time of day, and what you want your guests to experience (see, smell, taste, touch, and hear). Even if you have your heart set on a warehouse wedding, consider other possibilities like a Sunday brunch or destination wedding.
Brides Tip: Having difficulty figuring out the grand scheme of your wedding? Here are a few questions to help get the inspiration juices flowing:
- Where was your first date and what did you do?
- What’s your favorite time of year?
- Are there any locations near and dear to your heart? Why do you love those places?
- What activities do the two of you enjoy doing together?
- What’s the one food you could eat and drink you could sip on for the rest of your life?
10. Select a Venue
With your budget mapped out and preliminary guest list written, it’s time to pick a wedding venue. From the date to your guest list and wedding dress, your venue influences a lot of your wedding details. Don’t be afraid to look into a variety of venues. Seeing different options may change your mind or reiterate the choice of venue that works best for you. You might be surprised at the venue you end up falling in love with.